Judgements

 Yesterday someone asked me this question “when we are trying to become closer to God why people around us become judgmental “what is it about?

This is a profound question and touches on several aspects of human behavior, psychology, and spirituality 

In my opinion , When someone embarks on a spiritual journey, they often undergo personal transformations. These changes can be unsettling for those around them who might fear the unknown or feel threatened by the new perspectives and behaviors of the person on this journey. People often feel more comfortable when things remain predictable and familiar.

Seeing someone else strive for spiritual growth can prompt others to reflect on their own lives and choices. This reflection can sometimes lead to feelings of inadequacy or insecurity, especially if they feel they are not living up to similar ideals. As a defensive mechanism, they might project their insecurities as judgment towards the person pursuing the growth.

Spiritual journeys are deeply personal and can be misunderstood by those who are not on the same path.People might not fully understand the motivations or the significance of the journey, leading to misconceptions and critical attitudes

In many societies, especially in Pakistani culture there are established norms and expectations regarding religion and spirituality. When you are extremely religious you are perceived as molana vs normal people that just follow the norm Deviating from these norms, or even appearing to be more devout or spiritual than others, can sometimes be seen as challenging the status quo. This can elicit judgment from those who feel their own beliefs or lifestyle choices are being implicitly criticized or questioned.

Sometimes, people may perceive those on a spiritual journey as adopting a "holier-than-thou" attitude, even if it is unintentional. This perceived spiritual elitism can provoke judgment as others might feel looked down upon or judged themselves, leading them to react defensively.

Everyone is on their own unique path, and judgment often says more about the person being judgmental than the one being judged.Being open about why one is perusing that journey can often make transition easier! 

Butterfly and cockroach

 Read the mystic’s post and I thought why not create another post about it on my blog here thank you Mystic for the idea 

The quote "If you crush a cockroach, you're a hero. If you kill a butterfly, you're a villain" is often attributed to the French writer **Jean-Paul Sartre*

Cockroaches are generally seen as pests, associated with filth and disease. Killing one is often viewed as a positive act of pest control. Butterflies, on the other hand, are perceived as beautiful and delicate creatures, often symbolizing transformation and freedom. Harming them elicits a negative emotional response.

The quote highlights how morality is subjective and can be influenced by societal values, aesthetics, and emotional responses. What is considered heroic or villainous is not always about the act itself but how society perceives the act and the beings involved.

The cockroach and the butterfly serve as symbols for the broader concept that some actions are judged differently based on the context and the entities involved, not solely on the nature of the action.

This thought-provoking quote encourages reflection on how our judgments are shaped and reminds us that the value we assign to different beings can deeply influence our perceptions.

Thrift Stores

I absolutely adore old treasures—whether it's vintage clothes, jewelry, pots and pans, or furniture and artwork. My husband jokingly calls me the "Queen of Landa Bazar," and he's not wrong! I love exploring thrift stores, hunting for hidden gems, and sometimes I strike gold with my finds! 😊

When I slip into a beautiful, pre-loved coat or dress , I can't help but wonder about the person who cherished it before me. How did they feel wearing it ? What happy or even sad moments did they experience in it? It's a nostalgic and therapeutic experience all at once.

Arabic Calligraphy

سالوں بعد ایک نئی پوسٹ لکھ رہی ہوں۔ عربی خطاطی سیکھنے کی کوشش کر رہی ہوں اور قلم کاغذ کے ساتھ رنگوں سے دوبارہ رشتہ جوڑ رہی ہوں۔ دیکھتے ہیں کہ کہاں تک کامیاب ہوتی ہوں۔

I will be documenting my journey here on this blog. I've had the pleasure of meeting some wonderful young women from Pakistan while learning calligraphy online. We share laughs, exchange ideas, and enjoy each other's company. It's inspiring to see the youth so mature and enthusiastic about art, especially in embracing the rich Islamic tradition of Arabic calligraphy.

Fixer Upper

Men always think they have to fix things for women . Some things can't be fixed .... Women are not projects or things that need fixing but That's really hard for men to understand ??


  Women sometimes just need someone there ..... without fixing anything...after all women are not another fixer upper ~ 

Alone & NOT so UnHappy

After a long day at work, I rarely feel the urge to go out, call up friends, or meet new people. Cooking a nice dinner for my family while watching a light-hearted show is more than enough for me. I don't rely on others for happiness; I find contentment within myself. I'm perfectly happy winding down, taking care of my responsibilities, and enjoying my interests without needing anyone else's approval. It's taken years, but my phone rarely rings, and people don't drop by or call to meet up—and I'm okay with that. I don't make it a priority to regularly meet up with others.

How did I get to this point? I learned to stop trying to be someone I'm not and just embrace who I am. I love making people laugh and am generally open-minded and kind. I don't necessarily dislike anyone, but I can be quite blunt, deep, observant, and a bit snarky. Most importantly, I've realized that when I mingle too much, I can get sidetracked into negative behaviors like gossiping, which only leads to trouble. I've tried to change, but my thinking often clashes with others', so I've accepted these traits as part of who I am and live my life accordingly.

I'm happy being alone; minimal human contact brings me peace. There are no expectations, desires, hopes, or obligations. I feel free, at peace, and find comfort in solitude.

Exploded Chair ......

"EXPLODED CHAIR BY JOYCE LIN "

Most of us look like this to the world ? All dismantled inside with smooth but clear exterior that still shows our real flaws??